Posted December 13, 2013 by in Marriage

Preparing to be a Wife (Caring for A Household Before You’re Married)

I must confess. Sometimes I feel like I’m pulled in one million directions….trying to juggle all of life’s tasks. There is a constant struggle to manage it all. On the one hand, there’s work, which I believe is mission-driven and consistent with God’s plans for my life. On the other hand, there’s family, which is my top priority. However, finding the balance between the two is like trying to herd cats – it doesn’t come together easily.

I am wondering if there are others like me? Are there other women who desire to work outside of the home, but also possess a strong commitment to their family. Emphasis on strong where family is most important. I believe that this represents the heart of a homemaker. While some people believe that the terms homemaker and stay-at-home-mom are synonymous, they are not.  Anyone can be a homemaker — single or married, mother or not.  The most important thing is having the heart of a homemaker in caring for your household.

Being a homemaker is about desiring to minister to your household and make it the very best. The principles come from Titus 2, which instruct over women to teach younger women to “love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands: (Titus 2:4-5). The principles here teach women to manage their household effectively, have notable character, to submit mutually to their husbands, to nurture their children, to refrain from gossiping and to stay out of drama. Practically speaking, even though I work during the day, I am responsible for doing all these things in the evenings, on the weekends and wherever I have spare time.  I will have to give an account to God on house I managed my household (was it clean? did I have food in the house? did people sense love and calm when they walked into my home?).  I also have to give an account for my character (was I nice? warm? kind? was I always gossiping? etc).

Likewise, even if you are single, you must manage your household in a way that pleases God.  You have to apply the same principles (notable character, warm & caring spirit, submission to your pastors, boss or other authority).  You have to be a Proverbs 31 women who lives out the Titus 2 teachings no matter what season of life you are in.  This is what truly pleases God.  So, I’d love to hear from you. How are you incorporating these principles in your life? Please share your thoughts below. If you’ve enjoy this post, please “like” our page on Facebook; follow me on Twitter @courtship101 and sign up below to receive our weekly newsletter: http://eepurl.com/Jqlbn